The other day I met a guy who was starting a new business. He and I have been friends for a while, and when I was just sitting and listening, he started telling me about all the new dreams he had to build his idea.
I listened some more...
Have you ever sat with someone who just goes on and on and on?
He asked me how we were doing, and I just gave him the short executive summery. He didn't need to know all the details, but I wanted to share life, so I told him what we were into, and where we were going here in Colorado.
And then he dropped a huge life bomb
He and his wife of 17 years were going through an awful divorce. It's one of those divorces where hatred just oozes through every interaction. They way they deal with one another is nasty.
Most of the time I get wrangled into these talks, the side who divulged their side of the story is usually searching for a pat on the back, a confidant, or they're all together trying to build a team.
I sat and listened to my friend's side of the story, wondering all the while what the other side might be. And then I just seemed to have this sense about me telling me to serve, to love, to be with, to try and understand, and to give counsel where he asks.
I don't know how many times you get in conversations like that, but I would imagine very few.
Very few people I talk to have the capacity to sit and just listen to someone else's pain without trying to "fix." So our conversations in the Christian world dive to the lowest common denominator.
Recently, I saw on Facebook there was a conversation about whether Christians should drink Alcohol on Thanksgiving? I sat back in my chair SHOCKED. "Is this still a real conversation?" I thought. "Do people really spend time in this space?" I asked another friend of mine.
And sure enough, the podcast was rated one of the top shows in the Religious section on iTunes, and I felt awful.
There's so much pain in the world. People are divorcing.
Kids are leaving.
Death is taking.
Disease is stalking.
Hunger is plaguing our country like never before.
Health Industry is in debacle.
And all we want to talk about is how to justify a glass of wine? Or criminalize those who do? YUCK. I'm not interested. I want to be in a conversation that really reaches out to do the things Jesus asked me to do. LOVE GOD. LOVE OTHERS. Do this to the least of these. WHO CARES about minor stuff that justifies your behavior.
C.S. Lewis' death 50 years ago today reminds me when he wrote, "We are far too easily pleased."
Content to dwell in insignificance, while Jesus is calling us to a Joyous life. When will we see?
Today, I kind of feel like Jesus must have when he looked at the disciples for the hundredth time and said, "O ye of little faith."
The faith revolution we need has little to do with personal choice, and more to do with how we reach out to others. Let's stop being so introspective and reach out to others. That's the key to this faith journey.