"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
"Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces
Matthew 7:1-6
Isn't it crazy how many people want to go around poking their nose in everyone else's business? They don't want to take any personal responsibility, but they sure enjoy being God's judge to the world. I guess it's not that hard to see why people do such harsh things to others.
I mean...
If you can show the world someone else doesn't have it all together (at least as much as you) it makes you feel good.
If someone is struggling through life, sometimes it's easy to point out faults to show others how much you're living the 'right life.'
And...some personalities just have to point out the bad in everyone. I've seen it a thousand times.
Sometimes I'll get calls from parents to tell me about their students 'friend.' I'll hear all about how the 'friend' is doing life the wrong way, and his terrible parents are letting him get away with murder. And usually it's not near as bad as the caller implies.
When that stuff happens, I often wonder, "Why?" Why do we feel the responsibility to be God's police force in the world? Are we supposed to go out and enforce God's law to the world? Or, are we confident enough in God's abilities to allow him to take care of the moral degradation on the planet?
I choose to pick the later.
I believe we've all been given a choice to live life the way we want. We can choose to live life the 'best' way, the way God intended. Or, we can choose to live life on our own, and face the consequences of our actions. I guess the problem arises when we don't feel like everyone else has the same ability to choose as we do.
Now, those of you trying to make a theological point, please don't read into this. I'm not advocating that we just allow criminals to do their thing. I'm not saying truth is negotiable, or anything of the sort.
I'm talking about the times when we have nothing better to do than to look for the bad in someone else, and then go and share it with others.
It wasn't long ago, Jamie and I got a phone call from a young girl who was supposed to work for us. She had already signed a contract, and we were about a month from opening camp. She called to tell us she was unwilling to come out to camp that summer because she just found out she was pregnant.
Now...what do most people do in this situation?
Excommunicate her from the fellowship?
Talk about her sleeping around?
Tell their kids not to hang out with THAT girl, because she's trouble?
No!
Jamie was talking to the girl and explained, "You've made a mistake. If you've asked forgiveness from your heavenly father, told your parents, and sought forgiveness from the boy, then let's roll. You only have one chance in life to give birth to your first child. If you need anything I'll be there for you."
"If you need diapers, I've got plenty. If you need a stroller, I've got three. If you need someone to be there at the hospital, I'll be there for you."
It was exactly how Jesus would have responded. He would have seen the guilt in her heart, and reached out to show her compassion, and that life will continue. He would have offered grace in the face of what might seem like a total disaster. But most of all, instead of rushing to judgment and punishment, He would have showed her the love of a heavenly Father in the face of life's hardest issues.
Jesus says, "Don't throw your pearls to pigs" and often times we think that's somehow to keep secrets away from people. Or...it means that you don't have to talk about spiritual things with people who don't believe in God. But I think it means, Stop judging people in their position. Stop trying to be the Moral Police for everyone else in the world. What if we were a different kind of people?
What if we were people who were confident enough in the fact God loves people? What if we thought that we knew He put us in the lives of people to show them how much He loves them. What if we were confident enough to know, it's God who'll judge in the end? What if we just sought out meaningful relationships with people, in spite of themselves?
I guess that life might come when we all reach a certain spiritual way point along our journey.
May we be a people who care about people.
May we die to our own sense of moral oversight for the people around us.
May we allow the same freedom to choose how to live life as others give us.
May we understand the life Jesus described here, and not justify for the sake of our own well being.