You're just living life, doing your thing, and all of the sudden you find yourself looking over the cliff wondering how in the world you got there?
I'm feeling more and more like that these days, and I know a lot of Men who are feeling the same way. They're looking around at life and wondering what in the world is going on. Marriages are struggling, businesses are struggling, and if those two are in tact, kids are of the deep end. So many of us are asking real questions like "Is this all there is?" And SOMETHING inside us says there's more.
I was hanging out with some guys here in Durango this morning, and I was encouraged to see this picture doesn't acuratley reflect the populous as a whole. Nope, it would probably be a better picture with ALL of humanity staring down in this cavern wondering, what in the world is going on.
The strange part about the state of being is, nobody wants to admit it.
We've got this idea that the world needs to see us strong, they need to know we have it together, and they need to see us free from weakness.
But the paradox is, we're all pretty weak.
If we were honest with ourselves and our closest friends around, we'd find a togetherness that's out of this world. We're all wondering the same things.
I talked to some of the guys this morning struggling with marriage, fearful of business, wondering if life is going to turn out different, and it's sad we have to hide behind the "strong man" mantra. You know the one.
"Hey Bob how you doing?"
"Oh I'm doing great!!" (LIE)
"Oh we're in a great place." (LIE)
"How you doing?"
"Couldn't be better" (LIE)
Why do we do this?
Why can't we be real with each other, and just admit that we are weak people who are constantly looking for something to fill the empty void?
Everybody does it.
In my town, we fill the void with hiking, biking, fishing, and golf. We run, and hunt, and ski. We find every reason to be busy so we don't have to slow down and just admit...HELP!!! And if we did slow down long enough, we have this crazy idea we'd be taking someone else's time and bothering them.
So we reduce our struggle to survival.
"If only I can survive today, I'll be ok."
But what happens when survival comes to the end of the rope?
Who do you go to then?
Some will say, "Well that's where you just give it up and give it to God." And I'm still trying to figure out what in the world that means.
The beautiful part of this group I'm involved in is the fact I see guys ready to admit it. They're coming around to a place where we can all just be who we are, forgetting the need to impress anyone else or cover up our weakness.
I'll keep you posted, but for now, What a GREAT place to be. Together with other people in this big human race who want to hang out together and tear down the walls to be honest and real. I don't know about you, but I'm ready to just ask FOR REAL THOUGH?