For those of you who are running fast and are busy managing life, I just thought I would remind you, GUYS TOMORROW IS VALENTINES DAY!!!
I used to think it didn't matter, and even proclaimed my disdain to my wife. Yea, that didn't work out too well. Probably one of the biggest fights we've ever had is when I walked in the house and declared Valentine's day a scam. I mean come on...Roses normally 20.00 going for 100.00? If ever I believe in the Illuminati, this is clear evidence there is a hand forcing ill will on my life.
And then I came to my senses.
It's not about a date.
It's not about the money.
It's not even really about the flowers.
It's about a day to show the most important people in your life how much you care.
There are so many other ways than spending an incredible amount of money, fellas...DONT FORGET!! (just a friendly public service to you)
In working with teenagers, Valentines day is a confusing day. Flowers being delievered, cards declaring our undying love, and gifts all around; there's a general bewilderment as to how far they should take this day. And I believe there's a larger conversation needed to help our students understand how to manage relationships they decide to give over to.
I've always been a pro-dating kind of pastor. I believe students can get to know one another without experiencing all the pitfalls of physical relationships gone bad, break ups that traumatize them for years, or silly misnomers which cause many to speed a relationship before the proper time. But they can't do it without a little coaching.
We've got to be a people willing to help usher our kids into a space where they can be successful adults. Of course each teen is different, and many are traveling at light speed to realize their own place in adult life; but so many times we just leave them to "figure it out."
That's why I wrote this book, An Expose on Teen Sex and Dating.
If you're a parent, youth leader, or generally work with teenagers, this book can help you know what's going on in the hallways of the high school in your town. I spent two years asking kids how they date, why they date, and who they date, only to find the common perception we have of dating at dinner and a movie are long gone.
If you're interested in knowing what's going on, and how to deal with it, check this out. Click on the book below, and you'll be ushered to a place where you can start helping kids know how to become successfull adults in their relationship lives by focusing on God's intent for relationships.